“Sometimes the things that need to be said aren’t, and that’s why we end up the we do. NO ONE SPEAKS UP!!’ - @Relevanthoughts”
I came across that tweet the other day and I instantly began to think of all the screwed up people I know, and those that I don’t know, all whom could have been saved from their own detrimental thinking if only someone had spoken up. We all know that one person who is completely off, but yet we keep silent and let him/her continue to be ill-informed. The problem is that you can’t say some things to certain folks without them becoming vitriolic and in some cases violent. It’s not uncommon to hear about people laying hands on folks because of words that were intended to help them better their life. This kind of stuff happens everyday.
“Folks are out here acting up and ya’ll letting ‘em.”
So today I’m speaking up and speaking to the independent women who go about claiming how wonderful the title is, and all that other nonsense that follows. I’m not sugar-coating either. That’s for suckas.
Sigh. Ladies, ladies ladies. I am sooooooo tired of hearing how independent you are, how you have your own, you don’t need a man or anyone else to take care of you, blah blah blah. Three words: CUT IT OUT. You sound foolish and your ignorance is showing. It’s clear that no one has told you that being an independent woman is not a part of God’s design. Nowhere on no page, in any book, chapter or verse, does it say: the woman shall be independent and take care of herself and she will boast about it all day long. Show me the Carfax okay because I didn’t know that was in the good book.
See here’s the thing… If you have to constantly profess, proclaim, make Facebook statuses, and shout from the rooftop that you are an independent woman, chances are you’re not happy about it. The truth is, you’re likely crying out on the inside, but you put up smokescreens instead because you want people to actually believe that you are ecstatic about being independent. You may be fooling them, but you sure aren’t fooling me. Many of you are silently hoping and praying for a husband behind closed doors. Welp, I’m here to tell ya what you really want, is what you are supposed to have. However you cannot continue shouting from the rooftops this nonsense, and then when you see everyone else around you getting married, you’re somewhere looking up at God disappointed. God is looking back down at you saying, well you kept saying how happy you were being independent and that you didn’t need a man, so I decided to send that man you didn’t need to another woman. You can’t fool God. He sees and hears all.
Listen, we women have to stop making it seem like its something wrong to want a man, to want a husband. I’ll be the first one to say it and not behind closed doors either. I make it very clear to the people I talk too that I want a husband. It’s no secret. I’m not interested in sending the Lord mixed signals. When God sent Ruth to Boaz, he didn’t find her in the fields exclaiming to all who would listen about how happy she was to be doing what she had to do because of her situation. She wasn’t all boastful about it. Boaz became privy to Ruth’s situation by way of the foreman, and then this is when she found favor in his eyes. So what am I saying here you ask? Shut. Up. Shut the heck up is what I’m saying. You’re independent. Okay hand clap. The question is do you want to be independent forever? If not, then I advise you to shutup. Let that man find you in your essence. Let him find you doing what it is you do daily because of your independence. Let him find you favorable. This can happen if only you would shut the heck up. Besides, we’ve heard it all before and its getting old.
Listen, you were designed to be a help meet. In Genesis 2:18 God said: “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” (Keyword is suitable) Your rib is out there honey, and he is going to love you with every fiber of his being because God told him too. In the meantime until this man comes, you need to be preparing. Get rid of the self-imposed title Independent Woman, and replace it with Proverbs 31 Woman. She exudes everything I’m trying to be. She’s what we women ought to want to be. Be her!