Eclectically_Me

Tact: Use It.

• By Eclecticallyme
• July 18, 2012
• 2 Comments

Remarks People Shouldn’t Say

“Hey how’s it hanging tiny  boobs.”

“Your teeth are horrible, you must drink hella coffee…and then follow-up with a cancer stick judging by the severe yellowing of your teeth. Ugh gross”.

“You’re really skinny. My goodness do you eat? You must wear like a size 00…at least…”

“Hey what’s up fatty how’s life? My goodness what are you eating? You must wear like a size 20…at least…”

My Issue With Those Suffering from a Tact Deficiency

I have a problem with people who do not think before they speak. Well let me take that back, because for the most part I believe folks do think before they speak. The problem is that their brain has given them permission to go ahead and spew forth stupid-donkey comments.

I had a convo recently with a friend who’d become fed up with people commenting about her size. I could totally relate to how she felt. Growing up, the word skinny had  become synonymous with my actual name. Skinny, skinny, skinny. That’s all I heard. It bothered me because it wasn’t a term of endearment. It was being said as if there was something not right about being the size I was. So if it bothered me as a child, I’m sure it doesn’t sit well with an adult who’s been called the same. It’s one thing to refer to a child as skinny and think nothing of it, but as an adult the connotation of the word and the manner in which it is being used, can be easily taken out of context.

Why is it, and when did it, become okay to make fleeting comments that are rude? Would any of you address someone in such a manner? I hope the heck not. Saying to someone how obese they are, and then making a joke about it, is not only rude it’s downright mean. Do you say to people that their acne looks terrible and proceed to call them “acne girl”? Again, I hope the heck not. Do you know why you dare not say things like this to someone? *raises hand to answer question* It is because saying those things will likely hurt that person’s feelings, and will more than likely cause you to end up with a blackened eye. Well the black eye part depends on the person, and although I’m pro non-violence, I would have to say that instances like this warrants a black eye.

Fat is an uncomplimentary term. So is ugly. But what if someone who is skinny, equates skinny to ugly. That would mean that they consider what they see in the mirror as ugly. And here you come with your brain vomit and call them skinny. Not nice folks. Not nice at all. We need to avert ourselves from this carelessness. If you think someone is skinny that’s fine. Great. Do you need to make them aware that they are? I think they not. Bottom line is that tact goes along way. So give yourself pause the next time your brain gives you permission to comment about someone’s appearance. Hey, I’m just trying to save your eye.  After all, you need it to be able to come here and read what I have to say.

Keep it tactful people!

Love all around,